My recent revelation

I was just sitting here thinking and realized I drive myself insane but, not as much as I used to,lol. I wonder to my self about men that father children and are half ass fathers. I was just discussing this last night. When a man lays down with a woman and decides to have "sex with consequences"(as I like to call it) what is really going through his head. When I lied down with my child's father I knew and accessed the consequences. Now I will admit my calculations were a bit off because I was dealing with having faith in him to do the right thing.Now with men it seems that they just do this ish cause it feels good "raw". Are they serious? So then when the woman gets pregnant it is like "I didn't know this would happen". Now with my child's father he "said" I want to have a baby with you. Well now that she is here its like he doesn't know what to do. Mind you this is not his only child. So you would think he would already know, or is it just that the responsibility is too overwhelming. In my opinion like him and many others like him see how independent a woman is or knows good and damn well she ain't gonna let nothing happen to her child. So if he don't provide she will have too. And once a man sees that a woman will do this I think that he feels he doesn't have to contribute a damn thing. Another thing that I find ridiculous is when some men don't want another man to step in and take care of his child but he does nothing for that child himself. My child's father wants all the rights in the world to his daughter but what is he really going to do when he gets them. I call this the "show" or "pretend" father. One who makes him self known only when he feels his "territory" is being threatened. I just find most of this ridiculously hilarious. I used to beg my child's father to contribute, now I don't even care to be honest. When his daughter gets old enough to realize and he still remains with this mindset she will see for herself as well as his feelings being hurt because he his daughter knows "Daddy" won't step up. I hope he changes not for me but for his own sake. Too many children have no father figures in their life. It's funny because his father was rarely there and then eventually just up and left. Now he is continuing the cycle,smh.